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From Lesbian Bed Death - Spice Up Your Sex Life! Ever since the mid 1980's when the book, American Couples, by Philip Blumstein and Pepper Scwartz, was published, long-term lesbian partners have been taunted as being the couples that have the least sex out of heterosexual, gay, or lesbian couples! In fact, we have been accused of suffering from lesbian bed death syndrome - where literally our bed is used for sleeping and nothing else! With the grind of everyday life and the comfortableness in your relationship taking over your honeymoon period, it can be all too easy to put sex on the backburner as other things always seem to take priority. The bills; the dogs; the cats; the cleaning; the shopping - they all seem to take up so much of your time that by the end of the day you are absolutely exhausted. However, if you stop to think for one second just how good it was when you last had sex with your partner, no doubt a tingle of excitement or arousal will coarse through your veins! The truth is that you need to make time to rekindle the passion in your relationship; it may be cozy and comfortable, but where's the fire and desire and fervor that us women are renowned for? Ways To Re Kindle Your Sexual Flame If you feel that your relationship lacks a little passion then there are plenty of ways you can rekindle it! Here are a few ways to help you on your journey to sexual regeneration! 1. Make Time The first and most important thing to do is make time for intimate moments with each other. It doesn't mean that you have to have a sex rota or a timetabled day where sex with partner is penciled in at 6.45pm! It just means that perhaps two or three nights a week the ironing and washing up can wait and you and your partner can spend time together. You could go on romantic walks; watch a film; massage each other; or treat your partner to a candlelit dinner. This way you are giving yourselves more of an opportunity for sex to happen... and, as we all know, a massage is usually very arousing! 2. Romance and Loving Gestures It shouldn't be about pouncing on each other, either. As well as rekindling your sex life you will probably need to bring some romance back into your lives, too. Where have the days gone when you used to leave her little notes on the fridge telling her how much you loved her, or a single rose on her pillow at night? If this has been overtaken by shopping lists, or reminders to pay bills, then you need to stop and change. Surprise her and spend time telling her how much she means to you. A feeling of warmth, love, and security will enable sexual passion to arise! 3. Sexual Fantasies If you have sexual fantasies that you have kept closeted for years now is the time to talk about them! Share them with your partner and let her tell hers to you. You may find several fantasies in common with each other that you will both want to act out. Whether that's having sex on a beach, or in the rain, is entirely up to you - but don't be afraid to try them. Even the very fact that you have shared them with each other may be enough to send you both running to the bedroom! 4. Sex Toys If you have never tried using a dildo or a vibrator before then maybe now is the time to try it. You can spend hours online choosing which one is right for you both - and have plenty of fun and laughter at the same time, too. Introducing sex toys into your sex life can be embarrassing and a little uncomfortable, but, as you know each other so well you should be prepared to give it a try. When your orgasms reach new heights you'll wonder why you never tried them before. Then just see how long you can keep your hands off each other before you want her to strap that dildo on again! 5. Be Adventurous! You shouldn't be afraid to try new things either. If you spot the Lesbian Karma Sutra in a gay book store pop it in your shopping basket - it will make interesting bedtime fodder for you both! If you feel horny whilst out shopping head for your car or a quiet alleyway. If you always refrain from holding hands or showing affection in public be daring and hold her hand every now and again. We are always fighting for gay and lesbian rights, so show some pride in your partner! In fact, whenever the mood takes you, you should take advantage of it - even if it means you both feigning a toothache and rushing off to the dentist for an hour, or two, from work - if you get what we mean. The Two Secrets To Great Sex - Each and Every Time Are some women just better lovers than others? Yes, and no! What makes anyone a good lover all boils down to two very basic sexual moves. Number one is 'desire'. When someone is so ravenous for you that you feel they could just eat you up, you'll have the best sex with them ever - and over any other lover. A very real trick to making your lover satisfied in bed is to show uncontrollable lust and desire for them . You want them to feel that it is not about the 'sex', but about the sex with 'them' that turns you on so much. Be a lover who is uncontrollably HOT for HER. Display a lust for her that is incomparable to that of any of her previous lovers, and give her the impression that you have an insatiable, unquenchable thirst for her. Remember, nothing will make us more attracted to another than their own attraction to us will! If you appear to not be able to get enough of this desirous and delicious woman this will make her feel very sexy and wanted and desired and SATISFIED! You have become a very skilled lover, and you've mastered the first secret to making your woman feel satisfied. And what's this first secret?...AGAIN, desire - making her feel like she is the most delicious woman you have ever had.
If you take up just one or two of these ideas your sex life will improve dramatically - and there's probably lots more things you can think of that are even more exciting for you both! Let's put these claims of lesbian bed death to rest once and for all!
For more information read
Female to Female: The Ultimate
Guide to Lesbian Sex. |
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