| Eloping:
How to Get Married Gay or Lesbian Without all the Hoopla Getting married is a subject that has crossed just about everyone's mind at least once in their lives. If you have already found that special man or woman, and have proposed, then it's likely you have spent a good deal of time talking about the wedding you want to have. Weddings are a wonderful thing... however, they can also be a stressful thing as well! They are stressful enough for heterosexual couples, but for homosexuals there are a few added problems that make the situation all that more stressful. Especially so when you are trying to decide on what type of wedding you want to have. If you have always dreamed of a huge sweeping affair then you may just find that this 'ideal wedding' of yours is going to be much more work than you originally thought it might be. No matter what type of wedding you decide upon, you will still have to tell first your family - and your partner's family - of your plans to marry. You don't have to tell all of them, of course, but it is likely that you will want to tell some of them. Unfortunately, in most cases you can expect some opposition on at least one side of the family. In fact, if one of you has an extremely difficult family you may decide not to tell them at all. Whatever your decision, remember to communicate your feelings with your partner while these decisions are being made. You may have already realized a long time ago that your parents will never accept your partner ... even though, it will still sadden you that they do not wish to be a part of your big day when you make a lifelong commitment to your partner . With things like this on your plate adding to the already existent pressures and stress of planning - and the massive expense that comes with renting halls; tuxedos; caterers; invitations; cake; photographers; entertainment; and a slew of other things - you may just want to consider a very romantic alternative. Eloping. Eloping is not only incredibly romantic, and intimate, but it's also only about just the two of you. Planning a wedding often leaves some people feeling like they are having this huge,costly party for their friends and family - and not for themselves. Eloping removes this problem and makes it all about you two and only you two - which is how it should be. One way to satisfy both your own relationship needs, plus that of your friends and family, is to 'elope' but then have an added ceremony or party after you return home. This works especially well if you live in the United States (considering that marriage is not legal in most U.S. states). Take your honeymoon to Canada, or one of the other countries that allow for same-sex marriage, and have a beautiful - yet private - ceremony for just the two of you. Then, after you spend your honeymoon enjoying the area, and each other, you can throw a 'celebration party' for the people that did not get to be there upon your return. The plus side of this is that you get to celebrate twice! This will take a lot of pressure off of you because the big event, itself, is already over. Planning a celebration party isn't nearly as difficult as planning a huge wedding and reception. Many people report that the ceremonies they have had when eloping have been incredibly fabulous - and even more so just because they 'eloped'. This gives you something to experience together. You can say your own handmade vows, and hold your lover's hand, as you take your first steps into the world together in married unity. Due to the fact that you cannot legally get married in the United States many people not only support their homosexual friends eloping, but they may even suggest it. If you are hoping for the legality and security provided by a wedding ceremony, then whisk your lover off to another country and celebrate in style. You could even surprise him or her during your time off work and have them packed and ready to go before they even realize what you're up to. However, if you are not worried about the actual legal 'marriage', but more about the symbolic ritual of your everlasting commitment to each other, then you may want to consider going on a romantic vacation and professing your love for your partner. You can still have a 'private ceremony' as you travel to wherever you are both interested in going. As you return home you may want to have another ceremony for your friends, or a party to seal your commitment and, of course, show off the pictures of your amazing vows to each other.
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